Dear Lord please give me the strength to stay calm

[drakeshooter]

Mama kept a keen switch on top of the fridge at all times growing up.

 

[riverboss]

Hell my old man used dog chains belt buckets steel toed boots when you went down and a bull whip, he would chase you down and wrap that thing around your neck and put you down!
I'm glad that sorry SOB is dead.
Just glad I didn't kill him, moved out young and never looked back, got my mom out to.

 

[dirtstalker]

I got whooped my fair share of times..and I deserved every damn one of em. And I'm sure i deserved some that I didn't get. Mom was methodical in her ass whoopings..I can only count a very few times i got one out of pure anger in the moment. She always made me go get 3 willer switches. Then she would set me down, and explain why what I done was wrong, and why I was being punished. She would braid them switches together while we were talking. Then she would let me go play or whatever..and put them switches in the freezer. Hour or 2 later I'd get called back in for my switchin.

And I'm glad I was done that way..I very rarely made the same mistake twice growing up..and am still that way today.

 

[HuntressOfLight]

I am unsure as to the reasoning behind you men focusing upon such, when it sounds possible that elder abuse may be taking place within the home. It appears that Kentucky law requires reporting it, when such is suspected. I have always been highly protective of all elders.

I am thankful to God that I was properly brought up to respect and honor them. Such is my reasoning for referring the OP to Church, for counseling. Please review the following pertaining to your laws. I believe that prison time may be possible here within Kentucky for elder abuse.


Understanding Kentucky Elder Abuse Laws And How To Report Suspected Abuse

https://beckerlaw.com/blog/understa...abuse-laws-and-how-to-report-suspected-abuse/

 

[OLE RASPY]

If that’s all that happened then kids and MIL can consider there self lucky.
Some people just snowflakes.
That ain’t bad at all what you did in my opinion.

 

[00noturkey]

Once agin in my house where there is one extra person living for a bit longer something occurred and someone or a group of individuals decided it was best to keep something to them selves and allow me to discover it upon my own instead of just telling me that it happened when they saw me. Usually its something small like they clogged up the vacuum hose and I get a bit pissed when I turn it on to clean up and the damn thing is clogged the length of the hose. Sometimes its something else that only I can rectify and it is kept quiet until I find it on my own. This time it is more difficult to cover up and way more difficult to correct. I found it odd last evening that both boys and my mother inlaw went to the boys room and went to sleep before my wife even got home from work. This evening I came in late said high to the boys and the MIL. I decide I will flip on the TV and watch something and socialize while we wait for my wife to get home. I instantly yell what the F%^*!!! Then my free-kin MIL has the asinine audacity to say well its been like that for days. I snapped and said you know good and damn well you haven't been watching TV like that and not noticed that crap.

There is a shatter in the left side of the screen. The left 6 inches and the bottom 14 inches are clearly ruined you can see the strike point. I got to the cause of the damage fast but MIL was and is clearly helping cover it up and no one can recall when this happened. There is no way in hell I would have snapped at her like that even a few years ago.

I explained to the 3 of them I am sick of stuff getting broken and no one bothers to tell me. I explain how much worse it is to let me find the problem on my own than to let me know when it happens or when I get home. Most of this is aimed toward the MIL because the kids are not running the vacuum or the dish washer or the laundry. There is one person that usually screws stuff up and allows me to discover the damage on my own.
The 5 year old was quick to begin to take responsibility as the MIL continues to deny knowing. Ultimately the kids were at each other and the 11 year old took some present and threw it in the trash and the 5 year old threw a wooden Santa puppet at him and hit the TV. I feel like this happened yesterday after school and the MIL who spends 16 to 20 hrs a day on our new couch watching our new TV never noticed the fact the screen was shattered.
I spent a month or more researching and comparing flat screens this spring. We had never had a large TV and I had decided it was time to get something the whole family could enjoy. I had been working my ass off and saved overtime and purchased what to us was a nice TV it was a QLED 65 inch. Now its ruined and I have to learn how good the 4 year warranty I purchased really is.

Apologies for the run-on post and nonsence dribble but this has allowed me to calm down to the point of whats it really matter. Im proud of my 5 year old for offering up the cause so quickly and so disappointed in my Mother Inlaw.



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Blow some steam. i know how ya feel.

 

[00noturkey]

My wife is as headstrong as I am. I guess that's why we've survived 31 years........

some matches are made in heaven.

 

[00noturkey]

I remember when I was 5 we got our first color TV, my grandparents had died and left my mom alittle money, she went out and bought a 19" color TV, as we set watching it I kept pointing out the colors with my finger by touching the screen
My dad yelled at me for getting in the way, so he was a mechanic and had this metal stick laying on the table I picked it up and started pointing to the different colors, well it turned out to be a magnet on a stick and it pulled all the color to a spot in the screen.
He had a bad temper and wore my ass out with that magnet, I will never forget it and he will always be hated for it!
Calm down before you have a heart attack or your family hates you!
Children aren't adults and make mistakes, they don't have any idea how much it takes to replace that TV, I did but it was a accident.
Be mad at the adult in the room that turned this into what it became, but do it privately so the kids don't hear, then set down with them and talk it out.

that screen could had be reset easy.

 

[Redlined]

I got whooped my fair share of times..and I deserved every damn one of em. And I'm sure u deserved some that I didn't get. Mom was methodical in her ass whoopings..I can only count a very few times i got one out of pure anger in the moment. She always made me go get 3 willer switches. Then she would set me down, and explain why what I done was wrong, and why I was being punished. She would braid them switches together while we were talking. Then she would let me go play or whatever..and put them switches in the freezer. Hour or 2 later I'd get called back in for my switchin.

And I'm glad I was done that way..I very rarely made the same mistake twice growing up..and am still that way today.

You're mom sounds like a helluva woman. I love her methodology, she mentally whipped you before she ever touched you. The idea of her talking to you while she braided them then putting them in the freezer to chill while you went off to dread it was pure genius. Hell, that makes my legs hurt thinking about it.

 

[Stone Branch]

I will mention this, I am not a hothead but I do keep way to much inside until it pops but I never get violent and I do not get fiscal. Now I will admit to being a smart ass but who of us isn't.

The TV doesn't matter I will either pay to replace the display or buy a new one and we are putting together a chore lost for both boy’s, each chore will have a $ value and the boys are going to earn the money to fix it or replace it.

You got fiscal on the boys.

G

 

[bird whisperer]

You got fiscal on the boys.

G

Physical. Thanks for pointing that out, correction has been made. I posted that grammatical error at 4:42 am after driving all night to take my 11 year old on a duck hunting trip.

 

[Stone Branch]

Physical. Thanks for pointing that out, correction has been made. I posted that grammatical error at 4:42 am after driving all night to take my 11 year old on a duck hunting trip.

All good, I was just being a fellow smart ass.

G

 

[OLE RASPY]

Grammer school on hunting forum is all. Lol