Dear Lord please give me the strength to stay calm

[Meatstick]

One of the best posts I have read on here. I myself, am a hothead, and admit it whole heartedly. I am trying to turn myself around, as I'm starting to see my kids be the same way..and I catch myself getting hot with them way more than I should. Over silly shit. And bless my woman's heart, she has dealt with alot of my hot head for almost 15 years now..sometimes I'm not sure how she does it..but she does.

Yessir. If my wife had my temperment, I'd left her years ago. God bless a stubborn woman lol

 

[timer]

Man, I'm sorry about your TV. That sucks. Take a deep breath, count to 10, take a walk. Don't get mad at the kid.

 

[dirtstalker]

Yessir. If my wife had my temperment, I'd left her years ago. God bless a stubborn woman lol

Lol. Same here.

 

[HuntressOfLight]

Man, I'm sorry about your TV. That sucks. Take a deep breath, count to 10, take a walk. Don't get mad at the kid.

That 5 year old did the entire family a huge service, destroying that Evil Tele. He deserves extra wooden Santa puppets and one of these beneath the tree this year!

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[bgkyarcher]

My wife is as headstrong as I am. I guess that's why we've survived 31 years........

 

[HuntressOfLight]

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[OLE RASPY]

My wife and I left my step-daughter home as punishment when we went to a local football game. She called papaw to come get her. He called us and told my wife he was coming to get her. They got to arguing in my driveway. I tried to stay out of it for about 5 mins and then asked him to leave. Then he started on me almost accusing me of molesting his granddaughter. I am steaming but keeping my cool. I asked him to leave again. Then he turns back to my wife and points to her 8.5 months pregnant belly and says "Is this where all my money has gone?" I don't know the backstory on this but we spent $11k on IVF to have a baby. By the time his sentence was finished his beer was flying through the air. I got into his face and told him to shut his effin mouth, get in his effin car, and gtfo my property and if he didn't I would throw him through the window and take him off my property. He asked for his beer coozy, got it, and left without another word.

So what was your step daughter’s punishment????

 

[Tankt]

So what was your step daughter’s punishment????

Staying home while we went to ballgame

 

[HuntressOfLight]

It’s hard to “ take sides” without knowing both sides and all the people involved. How approachable are you? Are you a hothead that blows up? If so it can cause people to avoid the conflict by not engaging. Or could she be a bum and mooches that doesn’t want to take blame? It’s hard to say. Maybe somewhere in the middle? Best thing would be not sweat the little things in life and wait to take a stand on the big things that are more important. Clear communication and willingness to listen usually takes care of most stuff.

I have been musing upon the matter, being that such is my way. I do not typically disagree with your posts and initially gave this one a like, but it has been difficult to refrain from amending such, after due consideration and only because of one point; that being your posit regarding his mother-in-law.

To elaborate, both parents work and other arrangements would need to be made, if not for the work of the mother-in-law being at home with the children, which is most certainly a job with aggresive boys and one being only five years old. We had a nanny, and they are a bit costly, but our great grandmother initially filled that important role for just a few years. She most certainly was not a "bum" nor "mooch", as you put it. She had already worked as a nurse, long before then, when she had absolutely no need to work at all, I assure you.

All else within your post is great. When two disagree, I always stick to the old cliche that there exist three sides to the story, one being the truth. Works well for me, when analyzing a matter.

 

[OLE RASPY]

Staying home while we went to ballgame

Guess I should have said why was she punished. Lol
What did she do

 

[baknblack]

Guess I should have said why was she punished. Lol
What did she do

I knew what you meant. Great minds.

 

[WildmanWilson]

I have been musing upon the matter, being that such is my way. I do not typically disagree with your posts and initially gave this one a like, but it has been difficult to refrain from amending such, after due consideration and only because of one point; that being your posit regarding his mother-in-law.

To elaborate, both parents work and other arrangements would need to be made, if not for the work of the mother-in-law being at home with the children, which is most certainly a job with aggresive boys and one being only five years old. We had a nanny, and they are a bit costly, but our great grandmother initially filled that important role for just a few years. She most certainly was not a "bum" nor "mooch", as you put it. She had already worked as a nurse, long before then, when she had absolutely no need to work at all, I assure you.

All else within your post is great. When two disagree, I always stick to the old cliche that there exist three sides to the story, one being the truth. Works well for me, when analyzing a matter.

I didn’t say she was. I said she may be. I don’t have a clue. I’m just making the point that we don’t know the personality or disposition or nothing about the two parties from hearing the story from one side. Plus I don’t recall reading all the background on her in the original post. I mean no disrespect to either side.

 

[HuntressOfLight]

I didn’t say she was. I said she may be. I don’t have a clue. I’m just making the point that we don’t know the personality or disposition or nothing about the two parties from hearing the story from one side. Plus I don’t recall reading all the background on her in the original post. I mean no disrespect to either side.

I realize such. I always enjoy reading your posts. They are typically well expressed. I simply wished to point out that it would be difficult to consider anyone to be a bum/mooch, when that one serves to enable both parents to also work.

 

[web splitter]

Once agin in my house where there is one extra person living for a bit longer something occurred and someone or a group of individuals decided it was best to keep something to them selves and allow me to discover it upon my own instead of just telling me that it happened when they saw me. Usually its something small like they clogged up the vacuum hose and I get a bit pissed when I turn it on to clean up and the damn thing is clogged the length of the hose. Sometimes its something else that only I can rectify and it is kept quiet until I find it on my own. This time it is more difficult to cover up and way more difficult to correct. I found it odd last evening that both boys and my mother inlaw went to the boys room and went to sleep before my wife even got home from work. This evening I came in late said high to the boys and the MIL. I decide I will flip on the TV and watch something and socialize while we wait for my wife to get home. I instantly yell what the F%^*!!! Then my free-kin MIL has the asinine audacity to say well its been like that for days. I snapped and said you know good and damn well you haven't been watching TV like that and not noticed that crap.

There is a shatter in the left side of the screen. The left 6 inches and the bottom 14 inches are clearly ruined you can see the strike point. I got to the cause of the damage fast but MIL was and is clearly helping cover it up and no one can recall when this happened. There is no way in hell I would have snapped at her like that even a few years ago.

I explained to the 3 of them I am sick of stuff getting broken and no one bothers to tell me. I explain how much worse it is to let me find the problem on my own than to let me know when it happens or when I get home. Most of this is aimed toward the MIL because the kids are not running the vacuum or the dish washer or the laundry. There is one person that usually screws stuff up and allows me to discover the damage on my own.
The 5 year old was quick to begin to take responsibility as the MIL continues to deny knowing. Ultimately the kids were at each other and the 11 year old took some present and threw it in the trash and the 5 year old threw a wooden Santa puppet at him and hit the TV. I feel like this happened yesterday after school and the MIL who spends 16 to 20 hrs a day on our new couch watching our new TV never noticed the fact the screen was shattered.
I spent a month or more researching and comparing flat screens this spring. We had never had a large TV and I had decided it was time to get something the whole family could enjoy. I had been working my ass off and saved overtime and purchased what to us was a nice TV it was a QLED 65 inch. Now its ruined and I have to learn how good the 4 year warranty I purchased really is.

Apologies for the run-on post and nonsence dribble but this has allowed me to calm down to the point of whats it really matter. Im proud of my 5 year old for offering up the cause so quickly and so disappointed in my Mother Inlaw.



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At least she runs the vacuum and washes the dishes & laundry

 

[HuntressOfLight]

I could be mistaken, but I thought the OP recently took a job enabling him to work from home, as opposed to traveling so much. Perhaps I am thinking of yet another user.