Dear Lord please give me the strength to stay calm

[KYote-Krusher]

Zip it!
Timothy 2:8-15

11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve.14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.15 But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.

Hahaha ... I've got 2 people in this forum on ignore but I strongly suspect that one of them is who that "Zip It!" is addressed to. Good job!!

 

[Lady Hunter]

GULP!!

Threw your kid in the POOL??!! You showed remarkable restraint in not throwing HER in the pool ... with an anvil tied to her neck!

I thought I had some bad in-laws but after reading about yours and some of the others ... I guess I was pretty lucky!

I'm submitting you for "Sainthood".

Not a Saint by any stretch of the imagination! That woman put us thru hell for years... but she died a miserable awful death after years of Alzheimers and falling at a nursing home (and being allowed to lie in bed with a broken pelvis, crushed ribs & broken back for almost 2 weeks before we realized what had happened & took her to the hospital ourselves). It was ugly enough that even though I'd always sworn I'd tell her off on her deathbed, I just couldn't do it. She was suffering horribly & I knew she was gonna suffer a whole lot more with where she was going (and it sure as heck wouldn't be to Heaven after all she'd put the whole family thru).

 

[WildmanWilson]

It’s hard to “ take sides” without knowing both sides and all the people involved. How approachable are you? Are you a hothead that blows up? If so it can cause people to avoid the conflict by not engaging. Or could she be a bum and mooches that doesn’t want to take blame? It’s hard to say. Maybe somewhere in the middle? Best thing would be not sweat the little things in life and wait to take a stand on the big things that are more important. Clear communication and willingness to listen usually takes care of most stuff.

 

[carnivore]

Hahaha ... I've got 2 people in this forum on ignore but I strongly suspect that one of them is who that "Zip It!" is addressed to. Good job!!

One of my favorite verses to take out of context to get a rise out of someone, the first time resulted in bloody knuckles courtesy of sister Mary Katherine’s ruler. (So worth it)

 

[Lady Hunter]

One of my favorite verses to take out of context to get a rise out of someone, the first time resulted in bloody knuckles courtesy of sister Mary Katherine’s ruler. (So worth it)
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As a female, I've just gotta say that if someone were to SERIOUSLY say that to me, they'd end up with far worse than bloody knuckles....

 

[HuntressOfLight]

One of my favorite verses to take out of context to get a rise out of someone, the first time resulted in bloody knuckles courtesy of sister Mary Katherine’s ruler. (So worth it)
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No rise from me, merely a corrective statement. I think many women of Kentucky may be sensitive to such, which is interesting. The liberal heathen females elsewhere pay Scripture no mind at all, unfortunately.

 

[Velvet ears]

Call the kids in and paddle the MIL' s ass real good and explain to the kiddos this is why you are forthcoming with the truth to Mom & Dad and there's consequences for disobedience.....

Think that one through. She might like it.

 

[HuntressOfLight]

I like the verses about our elders.

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Peter+5:5&version=ESV

 

[Feedman]

Call the kids in and paddle the MIL' s ass real good and explain to the kiddos this is why you are forthcoming with the truth to Mom & Dad and there's consequences for disobedience.....

Now I got to wipe my screen again. SOB

 

[jblack1]

I got along with my MIL fine but I smacked a beer out of FIL hand and threatened to throw him through his car window once. Never had another problem out of him.

Ya gotta tell the rest of that story, ya can't leave us hanging with that statement.



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[Gforcetrivers]

Everybodies Christmas gifts are going back and guess what were getting? A brand new 75 inch flat screen, except for me I get a new fishing pole.

 

[EdLongshanks]

Dang. I understand your frustration. I get along great with my inlaws, but I 100% know my MIL would not rat out the kids. She would have taken the blame for them.

Hahaha. Pretty sure my mom would somehow try to say it was her fault as well. Couldn’t be one of her precious grandkids.

 

[Tankt]

Ya gotta tell the rest of that story, ya can't leave us hanging with that statement.



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My wife and I left my step-daughter home as punishment when we went to a local football game. She called papaw to come get her. He called us and told my wife he was coming to get her. They got to arguing in my driveway. I tried to stay out of it for about 5 mins and then asked him to leave. Then he started on me almost accusing me of molesting his granddaughter. I am steaming but keeping my cool. I asked him to leave again. Then he turns back to my wife and points to her 8.5 months pregnant belly and says "Is this where all my money has gone?" I don't know the backstory on this but we spent $11k on IVF to have a baby. By the time his sentence was finished his beer was flying through the air. I got into his face and told him to shut his effin mouth, get in his effin car, and gtfo my property and if he didn't I would throw him through the window and take him off my property. He asked for his beer coozy, got it, and left without another word.

 

[jblack1]

I somehow knew it would be a story that everyone would like......


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[dirtstalker]

“Let it go. Its only stuff and people are more important than things.” (The problem with this advice is you are going to bottle it up and explode) Ask me how i know.

Men are large, strong, and rough around the edges BUT the truth is women and kids are ROUGH on everything. Door knobs, couches, carpets, doors, windows, tvs, appliances, shower doors, plumbing, vehicles… etc etc etc. the reason they are rough on stuff is they don’t truly understand what goes into fixing or paying for broken things. And they dont see the BS you have to put up with at work to bring home a dollar.

You can walk around being angry and miserable about it. Or you can make some changes. Part of the reason they dont tell you is they are afraid to piss you off. Even if you dont say anything, they feel it. Like a furnace set to 80 degrees, you may be in the other room but by god they feel it. You need to change the culture in your household and in your own head. (Its not easy) You agree (to them and yourself) to control your anger and they agree to be involved in the fix and the rest of the family pays half (or all) either in direct or indirect labor. When this stuff happens look at it as an opportunity for your kids to grow, not as loosing weeks paycheck. (Way way easier said than done)

i had the exact same problem (cost me my previous fiancee and almost my current wife) so im not talking down to you, im right there with you. Its a natural reaction to being unappreciated. Not only are you the one loosing time and money you are also looked at as the asshole for “being mean.” That might even be the most infuriating part.

You are right, they are wrong. but do you want to be right, or do you want you and your family to be happy?
When the sink clogs up they help me fix it. = (No more grease down the drains). Broken door? I take them to the store to get a new one, look at the price and tell them i dont have enough money yet. We leave empty handed, put up a jar and we put money in it till there’s enough. That delay (not having a door) even if its a few weeks, teaches them. Same thing with the tv. Put up a jar, KEEP IT POSITIVE!!! Everyone will chip in and in a few months get a new smaller tv (maybe a Craigslist used one). Slowly over time they will learn consequences and responsibility. You have to celebrate the progress and small victories to keep motivated and positive.

It will take awhile for you to get this right, but channel that anger into motivation to using these events to help your kids grow. Look at it like a game. If you get pissed you lose, if you can get them to grow you win. And when you win you wont really care about a broken tv.

I'm not going to comment much on the mother in law. My EX moved her mom in years back after she lost her draw money and ODed on pills (because getting a job didnt seem like an option). After 3 days (of dealing with her nonsense) i hung a noose above her bed (in my house) with a note on it that said “please just get it over with!” She moved out the next day and my relationship ended soon after. I wouldn’t suggest my strategy.

With all that said if none of that proves helpful, i pray you get a burst of energy to find the strength to keep on keeping on and hope just getting it out /venting was good enough.

One of the best posts I have read on here. I myself, am a hothead, and admit it whole heartedly. I am trying to turn myself around, as I'm starting to see my kids be the same way..and I catch myself getting hot with them way more than I should. Over silly shit. And bless my woman's heart, she has dealt with alot of my hot head for almost 15 years now..sometimes I'm not sure how she does it..but she does.